Working Through the Pain

It’s no surprise to anyone who knows me that I’ve been dealing with chronic pain for the last ten years or so. Seems I’ve inherited my mother’s and grandmother’s degenerative arthritis. My five foot, stoic Swedish grandmother always said, “if you don’t use it, you’ll lose it”. She kept on walking everywhere and never owned a car. She took two aspirin each day, a swig of Pepto Bismol, and lived to see her 102nd birthday. She bragged that she’d never been in a hospital except for her last few days. My mother moved to Sarasota, Florida in her sixties and…

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Write a Novel? How do I begin?

Well, as many wise authors have offered, the answer to how do you begin writing a book is, “just write and write some more.”  That advice is wonderful if you’re not paralyzed by fear!  But, since I was a small child I’d faced fear many times and found a way through, hadn’t I?  This was different.  First, I had had success as a self-help author and now I was going to write a novel.  A completely different genre.  Who do I think I am!?  Self-help writing just poured out of me.  But novel writing?  That’s a different story (pardon the…

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How it Began

I remember being about six years old and wanting to write books but didn’t know how. So I sat and pretended to be a writer, filling pages and pages of blank notebooks with “words.” It felt great. I was prolific and profound. No one could understand my writing but me and it didn’t matter -- I was writing! Forty two years later, after publishing the Surviving Divorce newsletter on my own for five years, someone “discovered” me. They asked if I would write a book on grief and sudden loss. So I co-authored my first book and it was published…

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Research for the Next Book

I woke up one morning and realized I was getting older. Problem was, I didn’t know how to do that.  I’d never gotten older before. It wasn’t something they taught you how to do in high school like shop or in a college philosophy course. As I understood it, it was just going to happen without any prerequisite, enrollment in a class, innate knowledge or my permission. Now what? As I’ve always done with subjects I don’t know anything about, I started to dive headlong into research. I decided there must have been others who had gone about this getting…

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